I’m Taking My Eggs and Going Home:
How One Woman Dared to Say No to Motherhood
Lisa Manterfield was a sensible 32-year-old when she met The One a man who sparked a passion for tango, an urge to break down closed doors, and a deep-rooted desire to reproduce. Five years later she was a baby addict, hiding her addiction, plotting a maternity ward heist, and threatening anything that got in her way, including her beloved husband and his pesky practicality.
In this gritty, award-winning memoir, Manterfield traces her spiraling route from rational 21st century woman to desperate mama-wannabe. She examines the siren song of motherhood, the insidious lure of the fertility industry, and the repercussions of being childless in a mom-centric society. But this isn t just another infertility story with another miracle baby ending, nor is it a sad introspective of a childless woman; this is a story about love, desire, and choices and ultimately about hope. It is the story of a woman who escapes her addiction, not with a baby, but with her sanity, her marriage, and her sense-of-self intact.
2012 Independent Publishers Book Awards winner.
You can read an excerpt from the book here.
What People Are Saying
“In this memoir of love and loss, Lisa Manterfield dares to reveal the depths of her desperation, and in so doing, dares to reveal the depths of her heart.”
♥ Jennie Nash, author of The Victoria’s Secret Catalog Never Stops Coming and Other Lessons I Learned From Breast Cancer
“I’m Taking My Eggs And Going Home is a wonderful book, full of heart and hope. As funny as it is moving. I couldn’t put it down.”
♥ Carrie Friedman, author of Pregnant Pause: My Journey Through Obnoxious Questions, Baby Lust, Meddling Relatives, and Pre-Partum Depression
“Lisa tackles a taboo subject with candor and aplomb. Her voice is a welcome sanity check for women left to wonder how society became so fixated on motherhood.”
♥ Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos, author of Silent Sorority: A (Barren) Woman Gets Busy, Angry, Lost and Found
“A raw, transparent account of the gut-wrenching journey of infertility. Lisa writes with poetic, reckless abandon. Anyone who has ever suffered through infertility will thank her for pouring on the page the painful process of coming to terms with never being a mom. A true sister in the journey of infertility!”
♥ Stephanie Baffone, LPCMH, NCC licensed and board certified mental health therapist
“The book was so much more than an infertility story. It was an account of real life and the barrage of situations women face in adulthood. I hope many women will read this and feel comforted, whether they have faced infertility or not.”
♥ Lily Hay, author of The Infertile Mind
“I couldn’t wait. I downloaded it, read it, and I LOVED LOVED LOVED IT!!!! Did I mention I loved it??? I’ll be buying copies for family and friends. Not only is it poignant, it is a beautiful love story! Can’t wait for it to come out in print so I can read it again with my husband.”
♥ Sue P. member, Life Without Baby
“In terms of family building options, there are countless books about infertility and infertility treatment. Childlessness is the only family building outcome that seems to be painfully left out.”
♥ Jenn B. reader, Smashwords.com
“Being a lifelong reader, I can honestly say I have never connected with a book more than I have with this one. Thank you, Lisa, for giving us a voice.”
♥ lmg, Reviewer, Amazon.com
“Be ready for boldness. This writer doesn’t do sugarcoating. Hip Hip Hooray to her for telling it like it is, and also for seeing this very important story through to a book.”
♥ Sonja Lewis, author of The Barrenness, Silver medal winner: 2012 Independent Book Publisher Awards
The Life Without Baby Story
For five years, I wrote my way through the minefield of infertility, always looking for the humorous and ridiculous and somehow managing to skirt the deeper issues and emotions I was experiencing.
When I finally realized that my future wouldn’t include children, I rewrote my story and this time I told the truth. When I published I’m Taking My Eggs and Going Home: How One Woman Dared to Say No to Motherhood in 2010, I had no idea that it would shape my life the way it has.
Like any author worth her salt, I started a blog to continue the story where the book left off and to find an audience of interested readers. What I discovered was a worldwide community of women struggling with the same issues I was facing.
As more women joined in the conversation about making peace with a life without children, I began to see that there was a shocking lack of resources on this topic. Most of the infertility resources covered treatment, adoption, and psychological welfare, but dried up for people facing a life without children. And for women who hadn’t suffered infertility, but had run out of time or options and made a heartbreaking choice to be childfree, there was something close to silence.
Fueled by a desire to change the conversation about childlessness, Life Without Baby was born.
My Mission is to to provide resources, community, compassion, and support to women facing a life without children.
Three years later, the site offers support and community to thousands of women from over 100 countries.
For more information, please visit the Life Without Baby website.